Giving Is Illogical

Giving is illogical….


I received a text from a friend that I haven’t spoke to in what seems like a decade. Yet, in reality it has only been about a year. The text read something like “Hey, I know it’s been forever since we have talked, but can I borrow $20 bucks? I am so stressed about losing my job due to the fact I don’t have gas. I won’t be able to transport people (it’s his job is to transfer elderly people from their nursing home to and from doctor’s appointments, the grocery store, etc). I can pay you back Friday!”

No way! I haven’t talked to you in forever, and you are asking me for money? Are you crazy? Have you lost it?

Typically, most people including myself would have these questions. But, for some reason when he asked me, not even one of these questions entered my mind. I didn’t need an explanation from him as to why he is struggling – what he was wasting all of his money on, or even what he was going to do with the money I gave him. It didn’t matter.

Why didn’t I want an explanation? Because, I know firsthand what it’s like to be in such great NEED of something, being completely stressed and overwhelmed, and not even knowing of the first person to even ask for help. You feel hopeless.

He asked for $20, but that didn’t seem like the right amount that he needed. I ended up giving him $50 (If you knew me that would shock you!):


$5/smokes (How dare I support his bad habit?)

$20/cash for food


I’m writing this not to get a high-five, a pat on the back, or a “YAY, Cassie. Bless your soul!” moment. I’m saying all of this because I GET TO DO THIS kind of stuff at this moment in time. It truly did bless me more than it blessed him. I know that without a shadow of a doubt.

I had only one question for him and that was why he ended up contacting me out of all the people he knew. His response was simple yet just right. “I was scrolling through my contact list, not having anyone in mind to text, then I saw your name, and it just seemed right.” Oh, how thankful I am he texted me!

What if we get rid of all our “logical” thinking and the next time we see a friend in need, a homeless person on the street corner, or a child in a shelter, that we act upon the thought of “I need to give to them, it just seems right”?  Much like my friend, although he was the one asking for help, he followed his instinct and texted me. The problem with this is that MOST people who are in need don’t have friends, family, or even a glimmer of hope. Asking an individual person for direct help is many times impossible in their world.

That is why the existence of many charitable organizations is extremely important so that we can team up together and can get into the messy, yet glorious realm of giving.  And if we don’t open our eyes to the needs of others all around us, we will continue to live with the preconceived assumption that Giving is Illogical.  


This article was written by Cassandra Stokes, our guest writer this month.  Track along with Cassandra here on Twitter.

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